Material from a previous blog:
As I have spoken with other homeschool families around me I find a lot of talk about boys who don’t read well or who don’t like to read. I also hear the same talk (& in greater severity & frequency) from the many families whom I know & love whose sons attend public school. It seems to be a common concern among parents of boys.
I have the pleasure of being a "hero mother" myself. I must say right off the bat that I am very blessed in this concern (reading.) Although I have varying degrees of like & love among my sons they all do enjoy books. My eldest LOVES books. He would be perfectly happy to spend his days emersed in books from dawn till dusk. My second son loves books too but he doesn’t want to spend his life with them & he wouldn’t choose them as a Christmas gift. My 3rd & 4th sons enjoy books very much. My sons have not read particularly early but they do read well, in my opinion. Anyways that is the background; what is the point?
I don’t suppose to be an expert by any means but I do think our family has been pretty successful in this area so I thought I would create a category within my blog to help others help their son’s love to read. In this first entry I am going to suggest a few general ideas & in later posts I hope to highlight books that I think boys must read.
Things to ponder (based solely on my experience & no particular expertise):
1. Boys will not always choose books if there are other more visually stimulating options! I think one of the most detrimental things to boy’s reading habits & abilities are television & video games. Even a boy who eats, drinks, & sleeps books can be drawn away by the fast moving box of pictures. There are all kinds of studies out there that you could research & read about how the speed at which images are brought to the brain during these activities & it’s effect on learning. Our family loves a good movie but I am 100% positive that eliminating these habits from your daily life is a benefit. And don’t even mention educational programming! It’s like I always tell my sons, it’s not that the thing that you are doing is so bad- but ask yourself "Could I be using this time to do something better?" Imagine how much time we waste doing things that aren’t so bad? No educational television or video game could replace a good book!
2. There is no replacement for reading aloud to your sons! I am convinced that this fact has had a great influence on our sons. I read to my eldest in utero (I had time!) I read to him while nursing from birth on & I still read aloud to him today at almost 10 years old. And I don’t just mean picture books or directions-novels. Invest some time in a great family read aloud & you will see a difference in boys. Reading a novel aloud to boys allows them to sit back, relax, & imagine the story without having to do all the work of decoding the written language. You don’t have to be Jim Weiss & have 100 different voices to read with enthusiasm & excitement. Read aloud books that are above your son’s reading level- real living books! They will see that books are the key to exciting journeys, unknown lands, & incredible adventure. They can & will follow the story line of complex novels & inticate vocabulary. Not only does reading aloud make them want to read themselves, it also helps them learn to read with tone & inflection, increases vocabulary & attention span.
3. Narration. This goes right along with reading out loud. My educational philosophy is Charlotte Mason & I learned about narration from her writings. In a nutshell, narration is reading aloud to your son & having them tell the story back to you. You begin with short passages that your son can handle- a few sentences ro a short paragraph. You progress to entire chapters. This is a very positive, oral activity- not a book report. We began narration in kindergarden & staretd with books from the Childhood of Famous Americans series which I highly recommend. If you get your hands on the old ones they are not so politically correct & you cna find books that highlight the boyhood adventures of all kinds of famous men. Does your son like sports- try Lou Gerig, history- Jefferson Davis. Find soemthing they like & begin there. The benefits of narration are incredible including real story comprehension, sequential skills, attention to detail, & pre-writing skills.
4. Listen to audio books. This is not a replacement for #2! My boys have always loved audio books- from books on tape with little readers to Adventure in Odyssey(not actually an audio book) to novels like Undaunted Courage. Although not a replacement for #2 I do think it can have some of the same benefits & you can do it while driving (unlike #2.)
5. Give books a place of value in your family. Why would your son want to read if books aren’t important to his family. I read- at some points in life I can’t find time for more than a magazine article but I always read & my sons see my reading. My husband also reads & we talk about the things we read at supper as a family. My husband has even raced my oldest son in reading a book- talk about an incentive, nothing like a little healthy competition to spur on a boy! F9 started reading D-Day by Stephen Ambrose (yes, the really huge book.) Neither of us had ever read the book & we wanted to make sure we knew what was in there so HH (aka Hot Hubby) started reading it too. Well it developed into a race, down to the wire. F9 would read during the day, HH at night. F9 even resorted to hiding the book the last few nigths to slow HH down! Point is-let them see you read & talk about what you read. On the same note, show that books have physical value. Writing in & tearing books is a capital crime at our house so we teach our youngest sons not to do this. Then we can keep books out & available all the time. If books are only on the top shelves & need special permission to be used, will your son read?
6. Don’t forget the Good Book! The best reason to encourage your sons to read is so they can read God’s word- the Bible. I explain this to my sons. God has written a special letter to each of them, an instruction manual for life- reading is the key to unlocking that. To emphasize this fact I have a special tradition in our family. When each of my sons begins to read independently I buy them thier own real Bible & cover. I pick it out especially for each of them & write something in it about thier accomplishment. I can honestly say that of all the experiences I have had as a mother teaching my sons to read has been the greatest. In my mind there is no greater gift that you could give anyone than the gift of reading & I consider it a miracle that God has allowed me to participate in this great endeavor!